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Sobshrink's avatar

Dr. Cifu, I hope your colleagues listen to your wisdom so they can vicariously learn through your experience! It's good that MM had the self-confidence to speak up to you. My mother-in-law was of that same generation, and it didn't occur to her to question a doctor, so she took an overdose of doctor-prescribed vitamin D for many years (parathyroids had been removed and there was an apparent miscommunication between doctors). As a result, her kidneys were destroyed.

Your writing brings to mind a couple of my favorite Carl Rogers quotes:

“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, 'Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me.' ”

“The more I can keep a relationship free of judgment and evaluation, the more this will permit the other person to reach the point where he recognizes that the locus of evaluation, the center of responsibility, lies within himself.”

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Roli Antonio's avatar

I’m a patient, not a doctor.

I wrote a letter to my doctor explaining why I’m stopping statin. On the next appointment he brought my letter with him, and the relative risk reduction number for statin. I asked if he had the absolute risk reduction, which he did not, but added emphatically that the efficacy of statin is not debatable. As I have perused a number of statin RCTs I decided to not pursue the issue. We had amicable consultation to the end of the appointment. As I was leaving I said to myself, I need to find another doctor.

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