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Ronald Eliosoff's avatar

I am a general internist practicing in Ottawa and I can completely relate to every aspect of this beautifully articulated essay. I have seen it from both sides. I have been pressured to order unnecessary tests and to prescribe unnecessary medications by advice given to patients from well meaning colleagues leading to over diagnosis and over treatment. I have also seen friends and relatives who are clearly not being well treated by their physicians. It's a delicate road to navigate. However, one thing that I have learned the hard way is not to become directly involved in the care of friends and relatives. While it sometimes works out, it often leads to both bad medical care and loss of friendship.

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Mary Braun Bates, MD's avatar

This is just a really hard job.

It is.

And I know that I, too, have been guilty of making other doctors' lives harder by suggesting "Just ask them about XYZ." When one does not have the whole picture, things can look different, but when one's loved one is getting what seems like less than ideal care, it is difficult to stand by and watch.

Being a doctor is a really hard job.

Being a loved one is a really hard job, too.

Thank you for this essay, which, as usual, perfectly articulates what is in my heart.

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